Look the part. Or, as the saying goes, “fake it ’til you make it.” If you know that you look like a confident, capable person, eventually you’ll start to feel it, too. You should dress how you feel best — not what you think confident is. Try these tricks:
Dress for confidence. You don’t have to buy a whole new wardrobe to feel better in your clothes. As long as you’re clean, comfortable, and feel good, you’re set up for confidence!
After all, you wouldn’t wear a three-piece suit on a pizza delivery. If you think you look good, odds are you probably do.
Perfect your posture. How you carry yourself communicates a lot to other people, so make sure you’re telling them that you’re confident and in-charge. Keep your shoulders back, your spine straight, and your chin high. Walk with purpose instead of dragging your feet, and sit up straight. When you look like a confident person on the outside, you’ll be approached as one by the world around you.
You won’t only fool everyone else — you’ll fool yourself too. Recent research shows that the positioning of your body cues your mind to feel a certain way — so positioning yourself confidently will make you genuinely feel in charge. And to top it off, having confident body language has been linked to lower levels of stress, too.
Smile. Keep your grin in easy reach — you’d be surprised how even the smallest of smiles can disarm many a social situation and make everyone feel more comfortable. Can you imagine approaching someone who’s scowling? No, thank you.
If you’re worried your smile is fake, keep it small. A fake smile can be spotted from a mile away. On the other hand, if you’re genuinely happy to see them — or just happy for the chance to practice your new confidence skills — flash those pearly white teeth.
Make eye contact. It’s a subtle change, but it can work wonders on how other people perceive you. Don’t be afraid to meet the gaze of someone else; it shows not only that you are a person worthy of communicating with, but it tells them you respect them, acknowledge their presence, and are interested in the conversation. You don’t want to be rude, do you?!
Our eyes are uniquely human. They are windows to the soul, if you will, and showcase our attention and feelings. By making eye contact, you will improve the quality of your interactions in addition to appearing more confident. In fact, you’ll come off as more likeable and trustworthy and those who converse with you will feel more appreciated.If you can’t do it for you, do it for them!